Effects of Abuse on Children   Be cognizant of the damage that seeing spousal abuse in the home does to children. I keep emphasizing the effects on the children because it is a big factor. We may think they somehow are not aware of the violence, but most of the time they are. It can cause them to have learning disabilities and can interfere with their ability to succeed in loving relationships when they become adults.     Children who witness their mother being abuse may become fearful and anxious. They are always on guard, watching and waiting for the next event to occur. They never know what will trigger the abuse, and therefore, they never feel safe. They are always worried for themselves, their mother, and their siblings. They may feel worthless and powerless.   Children who grow up with abuse are expected to keep the family secret, sometimes not even talking to each other about the abuse. Children from abusive homes can look fine to the outside world, but inside they are in terrible pain. They may blame themselves for the abuse thinking if they had not done or said a particular thing, the abuse would not have occurred. They may also become angry at their siblings or their mother for triggering the abuse. They may feel rage, embarrassment, and humiliation. They might not say anything but deep down they are hurting just like you or even more.   Children of abuse feel isolated and vulnerable. They are starved for attention, affection and approval. Because mom is struggling to survive, she is often not present for her children. Because dad is so consumed with controlling everyone, he also is not present for his children. These children become physically, emotionally and psychologically abandoned. So don’t think for a second that your children wants you to stay because of them.Oh I don’t want to leave because it will hurt my children they want mommy and daddy to be together.No!you are doing more arm than good.   The emotional responses of children who witness domestic violence may include fear, guilt, shame, sleep disturbances, sadness, depression, and anger. Contents   PART ONE   Chapter 1.         Blinded by His Charm                                              1 Chapter 2.         A Sudden Change                                                    20 Chapter 3.         From Bad to Worse                                                  27 Chapter 4.         Robbed of Her Self Worth and Inner Strength          42 Chapter 5.         Overwhelmed with Pain                                            51     PART TWO Chapter 6.   Author testimony                                                                                                         Chapter 7.   What Abuse Can Do to a Woman                                   57 Chapter 8.   Words from Survivors61 Chapter 9.  Stop Making Excuses; Do Something About It                69 Chapter 10. Know When You Are Being Controlled, and                    What you can do about it                                                73                    Chapter 11.  The after-math                                                               75 Chapter 12.  It’s Time to Take a Stand                                               77 Chapter 13.  The Effects of Words                                                     80 Chapter 14.  Effects of Abuse on Children                                         83 Chapter 15.  You Are Not Alone                                                         85 Chapter 16.  Take Back Your Self Worth                                            86 Chapter 17.  Questions and Answers                                                92 Chapter 18.  Words for You Men Who Abuse  their women.              96
SHERELL ROSEGREEN
SHERELL ROSEGREEN
Effects of Abuse on Children   Be cognizant of the damage that seeing spousal abuse in the home does to children. I keep emphasizing the effects on the children because it is a big factor. We may think they somehow are not aware of the violence, but most of the time they are. It can cause them to have learning disabilities and can interfere with their ability to succeed in loving relationships when they become adults.     Children who witness their mother being abuse may become fearful and anxious. They are always on guard, watching and waiting for the next event to occur. They never know what will trigger the abuse, and therefore, they never feel safe. They are always worried for themselves, their mother, and their siblings. They may feel worthless and powerless.   Children who grow up with abuse are expected to keep the family secret, sometimes not even talking to each other about the abuse. Children from abusive homes can look fine to the outside world, but inside they are in terrible pain. They may blame themselves for the abuse thinking if they had not done or said a particular thing, the abuse would not have occurred. They may also become angry at their siblings or their mother for triggering the abuse. They may feel rage, embarrassment, and humiliation. They might not say anything but deep down they are hurting just like you or even more.   Children of abuse feel isolated and vulnerable. They are starved for attention, affection and approval. Because mom is struggling to survive, she is often not present for her children. Because dad is so consumed with controlling everyone, he also is not present for his children. These children become physically, emotionally and psychologically abandoned. So don’t think for a second that your children wants you to stay because of them.Oh I don’t want to leave because it will hurt my children they want mommy and daddy to be together.No!you are doing more arm than good.   The emotional responses of children who witness domestic violence may include fear, guilt, shame, sleep disturbances, sadness, depression, and anger. Contents   PART ONE   Chapter 1.         Blinded by His Charm                                              1 Chapter 2.         A Sudden Change                                                    20 Chapter 3.         From Bad to Worse                                                  27 Chapter 4.         Robbed of Her Self Worth and Inner Strength          42 Chapter 5.         Overwhelmed with Pain                                            51     PART TWO Chapter 6.   Author testimony                                                                                                         Chapter 7.   What Abuse Can Do to a Woman                                   57 Chapter 8.   Words from Survivors61 Chapter 9.  Stop Making Excuses; Do Something About It                69 Chapter 10. Know When You Are Being Controlled, and                    What you can do about it                                                73                    Chapter 11.  The after-math                                                               75 Chapter 12.  It’s Time to Take a Stand                                               77 Chapter 13.  The Effects of Words                                                     80 Chapter 14.  Effects of Abuse on Children                                         83 Chapter 15.  You Are Not Alone                                                         85 Chapter 16.  Take Back Your Self Worth                                            86 Chapter 17.  Questions and Answers                                                92 Chapter 18.  Words for You Men Who Abuse  their women.              96
Sherell Rosegreen
Gospel Singer | Producer | Author | Domestic Violence Activist